I’m thinking about what it means to be a daughter – what things we learn along the way, important things about our parents and ourselves. Is there one thing we take away or are there many? Does it teach us to be strong, forgiving, angry, loving? All of the above? I’m trying to finish something and it’s within my reach. I feel I need to go back to the beginning and I will, but is the most important thing we learn as adult woman acceptance and a great love of ourselves? I don’t mean “love ourselves” in a self-centered, kumbaya sort of way but a whole, beautiful way, a way we feel others have failed to love us, that we search for and find – ultimately – in ourselves.
We as Daughters
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5 responses to “We as Daughters”
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i am thinking about what it means to be a parent. i saw “our” dad last night. and every time i see him i wish i could really call him dad. daughters learn from their parents whether they want to be like them or NOT like them. people learn from people. i learn from you. i love you sister.
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I think you more than anyone should be able to call him ‘Dad.’ I’ve thought about that word before. What it means, what it implies. I think it’s different for everyone because there’s always a certain feeling you attach to it. It’s weird how one person with the same name can evoke such different feelings. Not bad always, but different.
We do learn from our parents. What we want and what we don’t. How we don’t want our lives to be. How we want to be loved and deserve to be loved.
I learn from you, too. I learn how to be gracious and light and understanding.
I love you, too, Sister
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And I have, once I’ve gotten older, realized how hard it must have been when he had all 4 of us at the same time.
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I do think the place we are being called to is the one in which we can love, revere, appreciate and embrace ourselves. In my experience, parts of what I love are in spite of, others are because of. My daughter lesson was a long process of unlearning being myself, rejecting intuition, authenticity unknown. It is a long, and worthwhile, road back.
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I am a stable self as of now – maybe a year, even 6 months ago I wasn’t a stable self. And I think that may change as I get older, but of course, I don’t know yet. I’m almost sure I will transition again though. But I think knowing what your stable self feels like is always a base to come back to. I know what you mean when you say you had to ‘unlearn being yourself.’ I was there not too long ago. All the things that make you you, suddenly you question. you have to leave yourself almost to come back to it. It’s such an awkward process, but a vital one and one that I’m not sorry I went through. The me in me is grateful for having done so.
Thanks. I always love your comments.
-Rachel
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